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Building Your Family: We Chose Surrogacy

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We Chose Surrogacy

Making this decision involved listening to my heart and my brain.

There is one thing I have wanted since I was very young--a family. For seven years I have been married to the most wonderful man in the world. He has the ability to drive me crazy like no other human being, and to make me happier than any other person on the planet. All thatís missing is a child.

As I write this, we are starting to work with a surrogacy agency, which is only slightly less terrifying than a Brazilian wax. How did we get here? I have a medical condition that causes me to have marathon periods. I also have polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS), so getting pregnant would have to involve fertility treatments. Two years ago, my medical problems had gotten so bad that, in order to preserve my sanity and quality of life, I had a uterine ablation, giving up the chance to carry my own child.

We then toyed with adoption. Weíve always known that it was an option, and I myself was adopted, but I knew I couldnít stand the heartbreak if it did not work out. I also wanted my husband to be able to pass on his--in my opinion--super genetics. Another reason that surrogacy was right for us is that I want to be my childís mother from his or her first breath. I canít explain why this is so important to me. Much of this decision-making process is emotional, rather than intellectual.

This is difficult because, once you choose surrogacy, you have to prioritize and make many legal decisions that emotions should be kept out of. As you go through choosing an egg donor, choosing a surrogate, and trusting people to do their jobs, youíll have days when seeing a diaper commercial can lead to hours of tears, yet you have to listen steadily to your brain, not your heart.

At the same time, you canít cut off communication between your heart and your brain, because your heart is what keeps you going by telling your skeptical brain that this will all work out.

Jaymee Giddings is the proud mother of a two-year-old son born to a gestational surrogate. Her blog can be found at babygiddings.blogspot.com.